This in fact is true strength: to be strong as iron when confronting problems and difficulties, and not to yield in the face of pressure; to follow through on our words and restrain our children when it is needed. And yet also be to strong enough within ourselves to open up and play with our children, and let them be close to us. It’s not an overabundance of strength that prevents fathers being gentle, caring and intimate with their children. Often it is the deeply insecure man, the man whose soul is weak and fragile, who cannot open up to a child, be silly with them, praise them openly, and hug them affectionately.
Tony Payne, Fatherhood: What It Is and What It’s For, p. 90