This will be a hot potato. But this is a very insightful Wall Street Journal article comparing the Western (American) and Eastern (Chinese) styles of parenting. You’ll hate it to the tippy top, but it will leave you wondering.
What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you’re good at it. To get good at anything you have to work, and children on their own never want to work, which is why it is crucial to override their preferences. This often requires fortitude on the part of the parents because the child will resist; things are always hardest at the beginning, which is where Western parents tend to give up. But if done properly, the Chinese strategy produces a virtuous circle.